Self Defense: Setting Limits, Deterring Criminals, Being “Rude”
It is well known that criminals often test the waters before settling on a victim. They check for weak body language, lack of confidence, and submissiveness….
I hate when people not in my circle talk to me,i dont know why they try i
always have a nasty look on my face,i always make shur my good hand is free
to deploy a weapon.
somebody your not sure of asks you some shit stare him dead in the face
like he just kicked your girlfriend for count of at least three, THEN I
answer politely. Between the long black hair, black trench coat and a
general natural distain for humanity they don’t know what to think. good
vid bro, solid topic.
Thanks for the advice, I am willing to view your future videos. You really
are a good person with good advice. Also quick question, is the SOG
Fasthawk a good tomahawk?
The other day a “homeless” guy that didnt look homeless asked me for money.
I didnt say anything, just gave a hard look. After I passed him he said
“thanks alot buddy” real loud. i stopped and said “if I throw ya off this
fuckin bridge you’ll have no use for money anymore, is that what ya want?”
He got the message loud and clear
Great video… I find it amazing how many guys will approach me as a woman,
in my car, at night and want money from me. Coming up to my car for ANY
reason is not good at all. I am not afraid to tell them to get away from me.
And I never ever open my door or my window.
What you say makes good sense and is very good advice. Now that I have said
that, I guess I am one of those people who is just a soft touch, well
that’s not the way you put it but that’s the way I would rather be thought
of. Don’t get me wrong I am aware of surroundings every time I leave the
house and I am always armed. Just today I was leaving wal-mart when I was
approached by a young man (I am 65 in good shape for my age) he was very
friendly but kept his distance when he asked if I could spare some change.
I reached in my pocket and gave him what I had with my left hand around 75
cents, my right hand was near my pistol. He said thank you sir God bless
you. If he would have said “hey man you got any money” I would have said NO
I DON’T. Was this man really in need or was he just out panhandling ? I
don’t know. It doesn’t matter to me. He was polite, kept his distance and
said thank you. Had he acted like a punk and been pushy he would have
gotten a total different response. But what you say here is very good
advice for sure and would be the smart thing for most people to do. By the
way been watching your channel for some time and enjoy it very much. I have
a pretty big knife collection myself.
The last time i was asked what time it was. I clinched my fist and shoved
my watch in his face. I surprised him and I was the one watching his
reaction. Lol
So true, everytime sometime asks for a cigarette I tell them the truth. I
don’t smoke. If they asked for money then I’d ask them if they had a job.
Might piss then off if they don’t, so get one or stop wasting your money on
stuff you don’t need. Which could be a lot besides smokes. I buy stuff once
in awhile I don’t need and I should use the money for something else. But
we all neex something from time to time, if we don’t waste money on junk.
What your describing is confidence or lack of it thats something that cant
really be faked better to gain a stronger sense of self than to work a
script your right about the assessement criminals make but passing has more
to do with who you are in the inside than what you say. Btw love the vids
I can gauge people pretty well. Usually if someone comes up to me I’ve
already been watching them for a while. I was raised in Dallas (Oak Cliff),
so I’m always aware of my surroundings. If I don’t trust you my hand is
automatically on my knife and if the situation requires it the pistol is
just a little farther back. I’m generally nice to everyone and listen to
what they have to say, but I don’t leave myself open for anything.
I just got locked up for fighting I had a neck knife and a pocket knife on
me and was charged with having a knife an assault a street fight self
defense in Maryland a hundred and fifty thousand dollar bail look it up my
name is Michael dari if nobody believes me contact me and I’ll give you
more info
You make a good point. Basically it comes down to… Would you rather be
rude to a possible attacker? Or would you rather be attacked, mugged,
possibly stabbed, hit, shot instead of being rude?
I know what I’d choose, and so would a lot of people, but also a lot of
people don’t think how often robberies, muggings and shootings happen.
I’d much rather tell someone to piss off, even If I’ve had a good day. Just
for my safety, and my families.
Plus, Very informational video, You should do more! :)
This is a really blanket response technique, it seems to suggest you
approach every interaction as if it’s with a criminal. Which can have just
as negative a response as being too submissive, you yourself admitted it’s
easier to get through life if people don’t think your an asshole. I’d be on
edge if someone came up and started asking me for physical goods, that’s a
no-no. But acting like an ass to any unexpected interaction is just burning
bridges and there are ways around it without making yourself a target.
For instance in the “what’s the time” question you reference several times.
If they’ve gotten into your personal space then keep your eyes on them,
nonchalantly back up several steps and then proceed to tell them with one
eye still on them (i’ll usually bring my watch up in front of me so my eyes
are never actually off the person). In this way you’re not being a total
asswipe to little old grannies and the disabled just to put on a strong
image, but you’ve also let a potential criminal you’re watching and ready.
I want to here more on this. Some guy asked me for some change. His hands
were in his pockets. I gave him some change. Then I left. Everything was
fine. Then some lady at the local mall asked for some change for her mother
who died. Supposedly she had cancer, drank, smoked and didnt work or
something. I didnt have any spare change so I said no. She asked 2 more
times. I was getting ready to leave but she left first. Was I being
“interviewed”? I am empathetic by the way.
Him: ” hey brah you got that time homie ?? ”
Old Me: ” uh yeah sure bro just a sec….”
watches video….
Him: ” hey bro you got the time my man ????”
New Me: ” EAT A DICK YOU FUCKING CUNT and GTFOutta my face BEFORE I KILL
YOU AND EVERYONE YOU’VE EVER FUCKING LOVED !!!!! ”
You’re never going to make new friends like this. Just be confident in
yourself/your abilities and give a dude the time or a smoke if he’s in
need. You dont have to be submissive. You can hand someone a smoke and
still be the alpha male. It isnt being weak. Its this new thing called
being friendly lol. Also nobody cares about being rude. You just shouldnt
be an asshole when not provoked. being mean all the time gets you nowhere
in life. i like your other shit though. good on ya m8
Yesssss! This is great bro! I would Add that the “interview” can be
non-verbal and there is a lot of material out there to learn but this opens
a FREAKIN GREAT door! Thank you for making this video, sir!
I dunno, always try to be helpful but stay cautious, being a dick and
refusing to say what time it is doesn’t bring much in terms of
self-protection, although I never give money to anyone asking since then
it’s much easier to grab’n’run with the wallet, and considering you have
stuff in your hands it reduces your reaction time (and the time it takes to
draw a weapon)
But I live in Canada, let’s just say the asshole concentration is lesser
around here than in the US…
Man you basically just explained the way I am perfectly. It’s not RUDE to
be on guard. That’s why people like me respect you. I’m always on guard.
And I’m a damn Registered Nurse! 2 thumbs up!!! Wish I could say this stuff
on my channel but unpopular youtubers get bashed for every little opinion.
Thanks for putting this out there & God Bless.
Good advice. I live in a small, peaceful little town now. but I grew up in
a major city. And I can tell you from experience that many small town folks
don’t have any “street-smarts”. Many don’t even carry a small knife, much
less one suitable for defense. I know because I see them in the grocery
store trying to open a box with their car keys.
This was helpful, because people ask me for cash or a light all the time,
and it’s only a matter of time before one of them has my wallet or shoes in
mind instead.
Man I love me some good interviews. This is a great topic for self defense
because it isn’t all guns and knives. There’s usually a lot of interaction
going on before that stuff happens. It is this area of self defense that is
the hardest to master.
they typically ask what time it is it is so you take your hand out of your
pocket and then they know its not on a weapon at that very moment your are
checking
I never say a word, when im aproached for anything not one word , nothing ,
i keep walking. i had one meth head start to follow me to my car walking
behind me,,,i then pulled my knife from my pocket showed it to him and said
nothing. the meth head stoped dead in his tracks and started shouting
profamitys at me. the words he used did no harm to me. when the meth head
saw i meant business, life or death for him.. he stoped his plan was
broken.
Great advice man, I take the Bus late at night then walk for a couple of
minutes on a dark street. I am very shy and generally nice, I will practice
what you mentioned in your video!
I think this is helpful advise. I always have a blade on me but being
totally honest, I am “afraid” of sounding rude sometimes. Its something I’m
going to have to correct because I think you make a very good point.
I lost the count how many times I have been rude to people even women
thinking they might be a potential criminal. Believe it or not I even had
turn down pussy, girls who calling at home trying to pick me up thinking
they might be potential criminal. Now you know why I hate criminals so
much. Fucking criminals man, makes everyone’s life a living hell.
I’ve never thought about this. I’m usually a polite person though I size up
anyone walking in my direction. if they look intimidating I’m defiantly on
guard if they say something. though I guess you never really know.
Good advice. There’s a drug store I like to go to where homeless people
like to hang out near the entrance. If they ask for something I tell them
no and usually they stop. If they keep asking after the first no I
immediately enter a psychological defensive posture. No means no and anyone
asking beyond the initial no is being a bit too insistent for my tastes.
I once scared a cop and a thug on 2 occasion ,buy given them a killer stare
and low toned Clint East voice thus I’m street smart. That means knowing
who to be nice to and who to scare the living hell out of!
so true brother! I grew up next to newark NJ. I knew a home invasion crew
that would check a potential mark. In public one of them would walk up and
bump into the guy. If the guy acted all weak and pathetic it was a go. if
the guy got all crazy and wanted to fight they would bypass his house. they
want someone who would just give up the goods, not someone ready to fight.
Most of the time Im a total asshole to strangers in public. If someone
walks up on me I get ready to fight. Great vid brother IZ
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Discussing how to deter crime by not reacting like a good victim to
criminals “interviewing” you.
now when you need help and ask somebody he will say no ?
Growing up in the trailer park ,I’ve learned a dark emotionless stare keeps
them away!
I hate when people not in my circle talk to me,i dont know why they try i
always have a nasty look on my face,i always make shur my good hand is free
to deploy a weapon.
somebody your not sure of asks you some shit stare him dead in the face
like he just kicked your girlfriend for count of at least three, THEN I
answer politely. Between the long black hair, black trench coat and a
general natural distain for humanity they don’t know what to think. good
vid bro, solid topic.
Thanks for the advice, I am willing to view your future videos. You really
are a good person with good advice. Also quick question, is the SOG
Fasthawk a good tomahawk?
The other day a “homeless” guy that didnt look homeless asked me for money.
I didnt say anything, just gave a hard look. After I passed him he said
“thanks alot buddy” real loud. i stopped and said “if I throw ya off this
fuckin bridge you’ll have no use for money anymore, is that what ya want?”
He got the message loud and clear
Love the premise of the video would like to see more……
Great video… I find it amazing how many guys will approach me as a woman,
in my car, at night and want money from me. Coming up to my car for ANY
reason is not good at all. I am not afraid to tell them to get away from me.
And I never ever open my door or my window.
What you say makes good sense and is very good advice. Now that I have said
that, I guess I am one of those people who is just a soft touch, well
that’s not the way you put it but that’s the way I would rather be thought
of. Don’t get me wrong I am aware of surroundings every time I leave the
house and I am always armed. Just today I was leaving wal-mart when I was
approached by a young man (I am 65 in good shape for my age) he was very
friendly but kept his distance when he asked if I could spare some change.
I reached in my pocket and gave him what I had with my left hand around 75
cents, my right hand was near my pistol. He said thank you sir God bless
you. If he would have said “hey man you got any money” I would have said NO
I DON’T. Was this man really in need or was he just out panhandling ? I
don’t know. It doesn’t matter to me. He was polite, kept his distance and
said thank you. Had he acted like a punk and been pushy he would have
gotten a total different response. But what you say here is very good
advice for sure and would be the smart thing for most people to do. By the
way been watching your channel for some time and enjoy it very much. I have
a pretty big knife collection myself.
You know theres a song that describes what you just said . Artist T.I. song
you dont know me
The last time i was asked what time it was. I clinched my fist and shoved
my watch in his face. I surprised him and I was the one watching his
reaction. Lol
So true, everytime sometime asks for a cigarette I tell them the truth. I
don’t smoke. If they asked for money then I’d ask them if they had a job.
Might piss then off if they don’t, so get one or stop wasting your money on
stuff you don’t need. Which could be a lot besides smokes. I buy stuff once
in awhile I don’t need and I should use the money for something else. But
we all neex something from time to time, if we don’t waste money on junk.
What your describing is confidence or lack of it thats something that cant
really be faked better to gain a stronger sense of self than to work a
script your right about the assessement criminals make but passing has more
to do with who you are in the inside than what you say. Btw love the vids
I can gauge people pretty well. Usually if someone comes up to me I’ve
already been watching them for a while. I was raised in Dallas (Oak Cliff),
so I’m always aware of my surroundings. If I don’t trust you my hand is
automatically on my knife and if the situation requires it the pistol is
just a little farther back. I’m generally nice to everyone and listen to
what they have to say, but I don’t leave myself open for anything.
I just got locked up for fighting I had a neck knife and a pocket knife on
me and was charged with having a knife an assault a street fight self
defense in Maryland a hundred and fifty thousand dollar bail look it up my
name is Michael dari if nobody believes me contact me and I’ll give you
more info
ah. the time,..a lighter.. i still am guilty of that nasty habit. but i’m
fixin to rewire myself
Very good advice. Thanks, great vid.
You make a good point. Basically it comes down to… Would you rather be
rude to a possible attacker? Or would you rather be attacked, mugged,
possibly stabbed, hit, shot instead of being rude?
I know what I’d choose, and so would a lot of people, but also a lot of
people don’t think how often robberies, muggings and shootings happen.
I’d much rather tell someone to piss off, even If I’ve had a good day. Just
for my safety, and my families.
Plus, Very informational video, You should do more! :)
This is a really blanket response technique, it seems to suggest you
approach every interaction as if it’s with a criminal. Which can have just
as negative a response as being too submissive, you yourself admitted it’s
easier to get through life if people don’t think your an asshole. I’d be on
edge if someone came up and started asking me for physical goods, that’s a
no-no. But acting like an ass to any unexpected interaction is just burning
bridges and there are ways around it without making yourself a target.
For instance in the “what’s the time” question you reference several times.
If they’ve gotten into your personal space then keep your eyes on them,
nonchalantly back up several steps and then proceed to tell them with one
eye still on them (i’ll usually bring my watch up in front of me so my eyes
are never actually off the person). In this way you’re not being a total
asswipe to little old grannies and the disabled just to put on a strong
image, but you’ve also let a potential criminal you’re watching and ready.
I hope you never need directions for the nearest hospital… :)
Are you an English major/ ex-Marine?
I want to here more on this. Some guy asked me for some change. His hands
were in his pockets. I gave him some change. Then I left. Everything was
fine. Then some lady at the local mall asked for some change for her mother
who died. Supposedly she had cancer, drank, smoked and didnt work or
something. I didnt have any spare change so I said no. She asked 2 more
times. I was getting ready to leave but she left first. Was I being
“interviewed”? I am empathetic by the way.
Him: ” hey brah you got that time homie ?? ”
Old Me: ” uh yeah sure bro just a sec….”
watches video….
Him: ” hey bro you got the time my man ????”
New Me: ” EAT A DICK YOU FUCKING CUNT and GTFOutta my face BEFORE I KILL
YOU AND EVERYONE YOU’VE EVER FUCKING LOVED !!!!! ”
Thanks WAJK !
You’re never going to make new friends like this. Just be confident in
yourself/your abilities and give a dude the time or a smoke if he’s in
need. You dont have to be submissive. You can hand someone a smoke and
still be the alpha male. It isnt being weak. Its this new thing called
being friendly lol. Also nobody cares about being rude. You just shouldnt
be an asshole when not provoked. being mean all the time gets you nowhere
in life. i like your other shit though. good on ya m8
Yesssss! This is great bro! I would Add that the “interview” can be
non-verbal and there is a lot of material out there to learn but this opens
a FREAKIN GREAT door! Thank you for making this video, sir!
I dunno, always try to be helpful but stay cautious, being a dick and
refusing to say what time it is doesn’t bring much in terms of
self-protection, although I never give money to anyone asking since then
it’s much easier to grab’n’run with the wallet, and considering you have
stuff in your hands it reduces your reaction time (and the time it takes to
draw a weapon)
But I live in Canada, let’s just say the asshole concentration is lesser
around here than in the US…
Man you basically just explained the way I am perfectly. It’s not RUDE to
be on guard. That’s why people like me respect you. I’m always on guard.
And I’m a damn Registered Nurse! 2 thumbs up!!! Wish I could say this stuff
on my channel but unpopular youtubers get bashed for every little opinion.
Thanks for putting this out there & God Bless.
Good advice. I live in a small, peaceful little town now. but I grew up in
a major city. And I can tell you from experience that many small town folks
don’t have any “street-smarts”. Many don’t even carry a small knife, much
less one suitable for defense. I know because I see them in the grocery
store trying to open a box with their car keys.
This was helpful, because people ask me for cash or a light all the time,
and it’s only a matter of time before one of them has my wallet or shoes in
mind instead.
Man I love me some good interviews. This is a great topic for self defense
because it isn’t all guns and knives. There’s usually a lot of interaction
going on before that stuff happens. It is this area of self defense that is
the hardest to master.
My response to everyone who talks to me is FUCK OFF! Works every time
You’ve got a Point there 🙂 Good advice, thanks!
they typically ask what time it is it is so you take your hand out of your
pocket and then they know its not on a weapon at that very moment your are
checking
I never say a word, when im aproached for anything not one word , nothing ,
i keep walking. i had one meth head start to follow me to my car walking
behind me,,,i then pulled my knife from my pocket showed it to him and said
nothing. the meth head stoped dead in his tracks and started shouting
profamitys at me. the words he used did no harm to me. when the meth head
saw i meant business, life or death for him.. he stoped his plan was
broken.
Great advice my friend.
Very true! Its like those storys of a young girl got “raped” and she didnt
even say No coz she was to shy to fight or argue …
Great advice man, I take the Bus late at night then walk for a couple of
minutes on a dark street. I am very shy and generally nice, I will practice
what you mentioned in your video!
I think this is helpful advise. I always have a blade on me but being
totally honest, I am “afraid” of sounding rude sometimes. Its something I’m
going to have to correct because I think you make a very good point.
I lost the count how many times I have been rude to people even women
thinking they might be a potential criminal. Believe it or not I even had
turn down pussy, girls who calling at home trying to pick me up thinking
they might be potential criminal. Now you know why I hate criminals so
much. Fucking criminals man, makes everyone’s life a living hell.
I’ve never thought about this. I’m usually a polite person though I size up
anyone walking in my direction. if they look intimidating I’m defiantly on
guard if they say something. though I guess you never really know.
Good advice. There’s a drug store I like to go to where homeless people
like to hang out near the entrance. If they ask for something I tell them
no and usually they stop. If they keep asking after the first no I
immediately enter a psychological defensive posture. No means no and anyone
asking beyond the initial no is being a bit too insistent for my tastes.
I once scared a cop and a thug on 2 occasion ,buy given them a killer stare
and low toned Clint East voice thus I’m street smart. That means knowing
who to be nice to and who to scare the living hell out of!
so true brother! I grew up next to newark NJ. I knew a home invasion crew
that would check a potential mark. In public one of them would walk up and
bump into the guy. If the guy acted all weak and pathetic it was a go. if
the guy got all crazy and wanted to fight they would bypass his house. they
want someone who would just give up the goods, not someone ready to fight.
Most of the time Im a total asshole to strangers in public. If someone
walks up on me I get ready to fight. Great vid brother IZ